A couple of weeks ago we did an exercise in a group to each work out what our love languages were. It’s something that has come up over the years, and people have talked about it on and off in varying contexts.
When I had first tried to work it out, I had thought I knew what mine was. You have a choice of 5, Quality time, gifts, acts of service, physical touch, and words of affirmation. Before I did ‘the test’ I had thought mine was acts of service, however it turned out to not be the case at all! It turned out to be quality time, which looking back, makes perfect sense. I love spending time with people and proper time, with them, not rushed time.
One thing that has struck me this time though, has been that, while we can know what most speaks to us, but we can see what speaks to other people too, and notice when they continually go out of their way for others. It might not be your primary, or even secondary love language, but you can learn to see it in them, and greatly appreciate it when they care for you in that way, and in turn, show you care for them. I guess I have just been struck that we can learn to see in others how much they care in their different way. Like speaking a different language. It’s also been interesting to see the things that I notice more than other things and realising that I don’t see nearly as much as I would like to!
It’s been helpful to think it all through once again, and see how we continue to change and grow in so many different ways. I was having dinner with a friend last night, and she was commenting on how, all through the bible, we are constantly called to love others, and we are called to love in so many different ways, and so completely. I guess thinking about the love languages, we can learn something new about ourselves, as well as learning to see new things in the people around us, and how best to ‘speak’ love to them in each new circumstance. Much food for thought:)
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